Soften & Surrender into Slow

Soften & Surrender into Slow may be a good fit if you:  

• Struggle to slow down enough to access your body’s relaxation response.

• Try to rest but find it hard to quiet your mind, even when you finally have time.

• Notice a lot of internal resistance when you attempt to be present or engage in intentionally slow‑paced activities.

• Often choose to complete tasks or stay productive instead of choosing activities that might support rest or recovery.

Nervous system regulation refers to your body's ability to move through stress responses and return to a state that feels grounded and workable, rather than staying stuck in survival mode. For women whose minds resist rest, the nervous system is often caught in a pattern of chronic activation, the sympathetic nervous system (fight-or-flight) can stay switched on even when the body has stopped moving, which is why you might be lying on the couch yet still feel wired, restless, or unable to quiet your thoughts.

Soften and Surrender into Slow is designed to work with this pattern in a gentle, structured way. Drawing on Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and body-based practices, the course supports you to understand why your mind resists stillness, notice the thought patterns and behaviours that keep you in busyness, and experiment with strategies that may help your nervous system access more restorative rest over time. This is an educational course, not therapy, diagnosis, or psychological treatment, and outcomes vary for each person.

Rest is what you do: stopping, lying down, taking time off. Nervous system regulation is what happens in your body when rest actually works; it involves your system shifting out of a stress response into a state that feels more settled and workable. For many women, rest and regulation are not the same thing, and you can stop all activity yet still feel mentally busy, physically tense, or unable to switch off because your nervous system has not shifted out of activation mode.  

Soften and Surrender into Slow is designed to gently address this pattern. The course is not about convincing yourself to rest more; it focuses on understanding why genuine rest feels difficult and learning evidence‑informed approaches that may help your nervous system move toward a state where rest becomes more accessible. This includes bringing awareness to the thoughts, habits, and nervous system patterns that keep you in busyness even when part of you genuinely wants to slow down. This is an educational course, not therapy, diagnosis, or psychological treatment, and outcomes vary for each person.

No. This course is not a substitute or replacement for therapy. It provides general information and options to support awareness of your relationship with going slow, restorative rest, and self‑care. You will not receive individual medical or mental health treatment advice within this course.  

Please be aware that I am a psychologist, but this course is not a psychology service. Participation in this course does not constitute a psychologist–client relationship.

Yes. Soften and Surrender into Slow is available for purchase internationally, except for people located in the United States of America or Canada. The course is fully online and can be accessed through the Kajabi portal on a computer or via the Kajabi app on your phone from anywhere you have an internet connection.

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The experience of trauma is deeply individual, and how a person responds to course content will vary. Some women with a history of trauma may find the exercises and psychoeducation in this course helpful; others may not, and that is important to acknowledge.

If you have experienced trauma and feel your current symptoms are connected to those experiences, I would encourage you to work one‑on‑one with a psychologist or clinician who can develop a support plan tailored to your individual needs. Your GP is a good starting point if you are not sure how to access that support.

It is also worth noting that Module One explores some of the reasons why women struggle to slow down, which for some people may include early experiences that made rest feel unsafe. If you feel that engaging with this content would currently be too overwhelming, please do prioritise one‑on‑one support before exploring this course.

You are welcome to make your own decision about whether this course feels right for you at this time.

This is a question I want to answer honestly rather than with a simple yes or no.

The course may offer value to some neurodivergent women, while for others it may not feel like the right fit. What I want to acknowledge is that this course does not include specific teachings about why neurodivergent women may find it particularly difficult to slow down. For example, it does not address sensory sensitivities, the impact of an ADHD nervous system, or the additional load that comes with navigating a world not always designed for the way your brain works.

If you are neurodivergent, I would encourage you to consider working one‑on‑one with a psychologist or clinician who can tailor support to your individual needs. You are of course welcome to explore this course, and I encourage you to use your own judgement about whether it feels right for you.

If you notice your symptoms worsening, or you feel overwhelmed while participating in the program, you are encouraged to pause the material and seek individual support from your GP, psychologist, or another treating health professional. This program does not provide crisis support, therapy, or individualised assessment or treatment.  

If you are experiencing significant distress, thoughts of self‑harm, or a mental health crisis, please contact emergency or crisis services immediately (for example, Emergency 000, Lifeline on 13 11 14, or Beyond Blue on 1300 22 4636).

Yes. In Soften & Surrender into Slow there are no live components. 

You will have access to the course portal for 12 months from the date of purchase.

The reason for this time frame is that many people find they are more likely to watch and complete a course when there is a clear window to engage with it. My intention is to support you to follow through on the commitment you make to yourself when you enrol.  ​  ​

You will be able to download and keep all instructional audio recordings, along with any worksheets and handouts, so you can continue to use those materials beyond the 12‑month portal access period.

If you are not a woman or do not identify as a woman, you are still welcome to purchase the course. The examples and language throughout are written with women in mind and I often use the words “woman” and “women.” If you feel comfortable with that framing and can see yourself in the experiences described, you are welcome to join.

This is a self-study, educational program with digital content. No refund is available for change of mind. Refunds are available in accordance with Australian Consumer Law where a major fault applies. Please see our Terms & Conditions for details.